This is a question I received on my Facebook:
“What do you say to the people who don’t know what they want to do?”
This was my answer:
This is a great question and I felt like this for a long time so I’m trying to provide a tactical answer of what I did. While I think everyone is different, I’m going to explain what I did below. Here’s my attempt at a tactical approach to this…
I think number one is understanding that you don’t have to figure out what you want to do for the rest of your life right now. People change, circumstances change, and you may love doing something now that you don’t in the future. So first things first, take that pressure off of yourself.
Second thing for me was creating a goal that I can control because the feeling of not knowing what you want to do is similar to the feeling of not being in control of your life. The first goal I created that I could control was around my health and fitness. I knew I could control what I ate and working ou tso that’s where I started.
After a few weeks of keeping the promises I made to myself, I started to grow more self-confident, more fulfillment, and in that state, your mind starts to think on the offense rather than the defense. Meaning instead of having all the thoughts of “I am never going to figure out what I want to do” they changed to “I want to try this and this…” I went from not having a clue what to do to at least starting to think about it. This doesn’t have to be with health and fitness it can be any hobby you have, learning a language, etc.
At that point is when I started to try things and that’s what I would recommend next. I would set your non-negotiables. Write down the things you can’t stand and write down the things that bring you joy and energy. Then just start trying anything that you have an interest in because you can make a living out of almost anything now. These days you can get a course to teach you anything for like $10. Create controllable goals around whatever you start.
The next thing for me that might be the most important factor that is keeping me going is committing to mastering my craft. Instead of wanting to “do this just to get by” I decided that I was going to spend every single day getting better at my craft. I want to put 100% of my effort into it now instead of 70%. That extra 30% makes a massive difference in results, confidence, and most importantly, fulfillment.
This was what I did to rewire my brain along with consuming a lot of self-improvement podcasts. But here’s what it comes down to. Every night before I go to sleep I have the entire next day planned out. Every hour of the day.
I know that’s very tough for many people but it’s one of the common themes among every mentor I’ve spoken to. If you wake up with a full agenda of things to do, number one you wake up with a purpose every day, and number two, you won’t have time to have negative thoughts because you will be spending time working to achieve your goals. It took me a couple of months to get to this point but now it’s my new way of life and feels great.
And here’s the thing, when you’re doing what I explained above, opportunities tend to arise a hell of a lot more often then if you’re not doing anything and that’s the reality.
I hope you found value in something I said. Make sure to check out my Podcast because I will be asking guests this question.
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